Is it a violation of the code of ethics for my ex to have been sending copies of emails to my attorney? Is a judge supposed to email attorneys who are working on a case? Is a judge allowed to make a final decision on an order without both parties present with their attorneys or can it be done through email with an attorney?
Your ex is not bound to the NC professional Rules of Conduct, only attorneys are. Further, your ex is free to share information concerning her contact with you with her attorney.
A judge may email attorney’s regarding a case, all parties should be copied on the same.
Often times details of an Order are hashed out via email.