Ex wife driving new wife nuts!


The situation you are describing is enough to drive anyone crazy. I will caution you though that any emotional outburst can potentially be brought in front of a judge and can have a potential negative impact. As much as you would like to tell her exactly how you feel, it could hurt your position in court.

Helena M. Toft
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The papers just keep coming. The motions are petty enough that even the judge is annoyed. I no longer have any desire to be civil. We are all supposed to be at a social function this weekend. I’d like to blast her back to last week for the latest round of show cause motions. My husband has followed the court order to the letter. But she has hired an attorney for the latest round, and my husband truly can’t afford one this time. We have to go for 3 hearings in a single day in less than 2 weeks. I am tired of tiptoeing around and playing nice. I don’t respect her and I resent having to support my husband so he can support her. I suspect she just doesn’t like her world when she compares it to ours, although they aren’t that different. If I should have a momentary meltdown and tell her exactly what I think, is the judge really going to care? How much do unrelated communications come into play? Trust me on this, she is sure to bring it up any way she can. She does a great damsel in distress routine. I just know I am soooo close to blowing my top… I recognize this is an emotional issue but I am concerned about implications in court.