I’m in the same boat you are–not quite as bad but it’s coming. I provide daycare for my kids every day 8am-6pm, and yet I pay my ex wife $433 a month daycare, which she doesn’t need, and won’t return. So, I’m filing a motion in court. You can too. I agree that the court system is somehow in the punishment mode for anyone with a penis–men are all sex-starved family-leaving pigs, but no one wants to hear WHY we left, that doesn’t count. So, you have to think and act like your ex wife. YOU HAVE TO. Did you know that you might be eligible for the same social services? Have you asked? Why is it OK for her to have food stamps but you can’t?
You probably made the same mistakes I made. Somehow, you felt that if you did the right thing–give her the house, allow for increases every month, provide daycare money, etc. that she would see you are acting on behalf of your kids and somehow give you a break, right? And that the kids should not have to see the ugly side of divorce. The truth is, I doubt your wife gave you any credit–in fact, like mine, she counted on your kindness and guilt and watched you hang yourself. I wish there was more I could tell you. YOU MUST BEGIN TO REALIZE THAT YOU ARE IN THIS TOTALLY ALONE AND THE ONLY ONE WHO YOU CAN COUNT ON IS YOU.