I agree with the posters that the North Carolina Courts are unfair, biased, uncaring, and gives the impression of being rigged against fathers. The reason I have made this deduction are the following: the child custody courts mandated every other weekend–a total of 6 days a month visitation for the father; take home pay is $1000 and child support is $400 a month; as far as the mother, her income is 2xs that amount–his income is low because he had to change job vocation due to injury. Without going into all the details, she is not a nice person, was unfaithful, and has dumped off the child at friends homes for months. Yet, the court awarded her custody.
When it was brought up to the judge how can a person survive on $600 a month, there is rent, utilities, transportation costs, food, and when the child visits–food, clothing, diapers, etc. The judge stated coldly that he never knew anyone who went to jail for not paying rent or utilities. In trying to have the amount changed to be affordable, it has been one closed door after another. The penalty for not paying the full amount is you loose your license–so now how can you drive to work? So you pay taxi which now leaves you with less money to pay child support. Now you are even in greater debt to the courts…so they claim will put you in jail for non-payment. Now you loose your job, homeless, and the court takes all your personal belongings. But that is O.K. because the court will graciously keep you in jail until you can pay off this debt. They have work programs that you can do in jail until your debt is paid off. Then when your child reaches 18, your still in jail because your still in prison working off your debt. In the meantime, your child never has a relationship with his father.
When you finally get out of jail, you are still homeless because now you have no credit, no ID, and no money to support yourself. If you think I am over exaggerating, look up the dhhs North Carolina law concerning support payments.
Now, some of you think why not get another job. Well, if you make more money, you end up in another tax bracket paying more. Spoke to an accountant regarding this. You are not only in another tax bracket, but the monthly payments are increased and you end up in the same situation. When would you have time to spend with your child.
I was always for the woman…but after seeing what NC does to good men who want to be part of their children’s lives, NC does everything in their power to prevent this. No wonder men quit seeing their children…it is absolutely HOPELESS! Oh, did I mention that when the wife gets a raise, that means a recalculations of your combined income, even if you make the same but now you are obligated to pay more when the the courts do their reviews every three years. Call that fair? Seriously, read the dhhs of NC on-line child care support payment site.
Anyone out there have any suggestions, experiences, advice? And that previous blogger who claimed her husband’s attorney done her wrong, who was he? Because he must be one good attorney if he was able to get the courts to favor the father. Don’t get me started on grandparent rights.
One last comment. How come this unfair law hasn’t changed?