My husband leaves every year or so; but, this time I have had enough. He left again on 05/18. We have been able to work together thus far on paying bills. However, he is steadily becoming harder to communicate with and often will not answer important finanical questions. I am trying to obtain an attorney; but, have not been able to do so as of yet.
He makes 68% of our combined income. I have two children from a previous marriage. We have been married 8 years.
He refuses to sign a Separation Agreement.
Money is really tight for me. I do not want to hurt myself in the long-term and need advice on what bills I should pay.
Few points that may or may not be important:
Mortgage is in his name only.
I have Fibromyalgia and had not worked for two years prior to April (when he started making it obvious he would leave again)
Children and I live in the house. He lives with a friend and pays $50.00 a week for bed and board.
He has not helped with anything since he has left except for giving me money to pay bills. Now he says he is not going to do that. I have had to take responsibility for financial planning, handled all work around house and in yard.
He has spent money on his medical needs while I have been unable to attend to mine.
His vehicle is maintained while mean needs a lot of work.
I want to make sure that I take the best course of action for children and myself. I would like to use some of my check to take care of my medical needs and car; however, this will leave me with no money to contribute toward mortgage. Utilities, food, student loans, and debts in my name take up my check. I would also like to set some money aside to move as I am failing at financially and physically taking care of up-keep on the house and think an apartment might be a wiser choice. He has promised to take care of the yard; but, has not done anything since leaving.
Is it advisable to take the child-support I receive from the children’s biological father and put that into a savings account in their name with my name on it?
Thank you in advance for any replies. I have tried to find answers on this subject but have not found anything that really applies to a step-parent situation and how to pay bills without a separation agreement and do not want to be blind-sided by a possible court order to reimburse him for mortgage payments, etc.