Trust me. If you think this, it probably is going on. My spouse did exactly that. Terrible way to treat another person. If you can, go to the bank and get a loan. Try to get a home equity loan. Family,friends, whatever. Definately get proof of affair. Get a PI if needed. IF he has a business, get a forensic accountant. Maybe a pi can find out information of hidden assests for you too. good luck
ldb
I would have to agree. Trust your instincts. But keep in mind that you must be prepared to deal with the reality IF you find the proof you are looking for…
You are entitled to 1/2 any amount in any bank account even if your name is not on it…you are married and until you separate, his income is considered marital asset.
Also, you would probably qualify for alimony and/or post separation support…with this presumption, he would more than likely be paying for your attorney fees.
If you do not understand what the outcome of the consult with the attorney was, consult another. Ask around and see if someone is recommended. Keep this saying in mind…Ask for everything but expect less. This way you should get what you are entitled to. A good attorney should be able to find “hidden” assets but it’s best to attempt to do you own homework to. You may find something that the attorney’s can’t. Start a “divorce folder” and start documenting everything you can think of. Dates, events. Keep a journal or log of anything that you think may be noteworthy. Solicite a friend or family member to follow him and take photos. IF someone is cheating, there are ways to find out…
If you have additional question you should first try following up with the attorney that you met with. They may be able to help you come up with some ideas on how to pay for attorney’s fees.
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When you are in a situation where you THINK your spouse may be having an affair, you THINK they might be hiding assets, you THINK they are not going to treat you fairly without being forced to, and the few people you trust to tell this to are all encouraging you to seek legal advice…how in the heck do you pay for it? I have had one hour and half consultation with an attorney that cost me $250.00 and I as confused as ever. We have been married for 27 years and I am a stay at home mother looking for a job…my funds are limited (don’t know if his are or not)but how do you all afford this legal advice when all the attorney’s want to be paid up front??? I won’t have any money until the settlement…if it comes to that. I am sooo confused and depressed.