How to divorce an abusive spouse without letting him know your address or location

How can you divorce an abusive spouse who may not be in same state or out of the country? He has refused to grant a divorce and we fear retribution if he knows others, especially the court, knows our situation. One minor is involved other child above 18 and they are afraid of him too.

You may find assistance with North Carolina’s Address Confidentiality Program through the North Carolina Department of Justice. Also, check with your local domestic violence agency for help and resources.

If you have not already, you may also qualify for a domestic violence protective order.

You can file for divorce in NC in the county that either party lives. If your husband does not live in NC, you will have to file in the county where you live.

You do have to provide your address in court filings. However, if you are unable to gain assistance through the Address Confidentiality Program, a lawyer on your behalf would be able to substitute their business address as your address.


Anna Ayscue

Attorney with Rosen Law Firm Cary • Chapel Hill • Durham • Raleigh

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