You need to make copies of all of this info before it leaves the house even if you have to wait til he goes to bed and go to an ofc. supply place to make copies. You need to know what you have as far as life ins., medical ins., outstanding debts, bank accts., any investment accts., WILL and tax return from last year. Don’t mean to sound paranoid but you don’t divorce the same man you marry…took awhile for that to sink in for me. When my husband of 28 yrs. screamed at me that if I hired a lawyer things would get very ugly…I finally got the message. He became verbally abusive once I refused to give him his way and after I ended up in the E.R. due to major stress he finally moved out. He was hoping I would leave but I was and still am a dependent spouse because I have a manor health issue.
I am sorry to say that often once they leave they change their tune about what they are willing to do and if they are getting free advice from friends or relatives it can make it worse. If you have been married a long time, have children, need spousal support, and have any assets that should be divided you really need to see about hiring an attorney UNLESS you really think he will sit down at the table and meet you half way on a separation agreement. I don’t have a lot of confidence in that but since I don’t know him only you can make that decision. Just be alert and watch your back. . Remember whatever you have not asked for before your divorce becomes final you can kiss goodbye. Good luck.