Intimate Relations during the divorce process

Having sex does not have any bearing on the divorce proceedings. If you move back in together and began living as husband and wife, that would reset the “separation timer”.
If you have contracted a “medical concern” I suggest that you discuss this with your stbx. They have a right to know and be tested also. If your worried about medical insurance after it’s possible that the insurance coverage can be extended to the end of the “insurance year”. If you have gotten something somewhere else and given it to the stbx, then it’s probably safe to say that the stbx will not want to be responsible for you…you could apply for Medicaid if you can not afford health insurance.

Stepmom, thanks for your response. I will definitely dicuss the medical concern. It is definitely on his behalf as I have not been outside of our relationship. I truly believe that everyone should involved should be made aware of anything that affects them. I am going to look into requesting the insurance extention and the medicaide option.


Isolated instances of sexual contact do not stop the one year waiting period for divorce. If the acts of sexual contact were in conjunction with other acts that could be considered reconciliation then the waiting period would start again.

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Does having intimate relations during the divorce process have any bearing on any aspect of the situation. I am embarassed and ashamed to admit that I allowed myelf to be involved with my soon-to-be-ex in this manner. I have now contracted a medical concern that directly involves my the soon-to-be-ex. Unfortunately, I will lose medical coverage when the divorce becomes finally.(medical coverage that I would really need due to the nature of the medical concern) Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.