Joint Custody and Visitation ?'s

Heck NO you’re not wrong! If he can’t pick the child up at daycare then decide where you’d like to meet him, or have a neighbor/friend stand with you at the end of the driveway for the exchange.

Walk through??? Pleeeaassee… Why in the world would he need a walk through other than the ‘check things out’ and be nosy. Do not let him in.

Copy and paste your agreement statements in an email along with your refusal.

Do not even let him come to your house. Do ALL exchanges at a public location, the police station sounds like your best bet. Keep a copy of your order with you so that if there is a fuss, you will have that on hand.
Contempt of court, HA! If your court order does not say that he’s allowed to pick up at the home, you are in no way in contempt. He’s bullying you into keeping a little bit of control. Do NOT let him do this. When he states “duly noted” ask him if it would help him to have YOUR notes also…and tell him that hope he will gain more of a life in the future so that he no longer has to consume himself with yours.

He does not have a right to enter your home and you are not required to allow him to do so. I do not think you are doing anything wrong by following the court order and telling him you want to meet at a neutral location.

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We have joint custody with me as the primary custodian. He wants me to allow him a walk thru tour of my home. I said no and he makes a point of saying it is “duly noted” with veiled threats of contempt of court. This request came hand-in-hand with a visitation where he cannot pick our son up at daycare and wanted to do it at my home.

My custody order states reference drop-off and pick-up:

“That all pickup and drop off of the minor child for the scheduled visitations except summer visitation, shall be st the school/day care where the minor child is enrolled”


“The exchanges for the summer visitation shall be at a location to be determined by the parties.”

So am I wrong to tell him: No, we will meet at a public place like the police department or fire department and not my home and no tour of my home?