Long ago affair & alimony?


Dear teachkind1:

Greetings. I already answered this post previously (you must have posted it again). Let me know if you have any other questions at this time. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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I’d appreciate an attorney’s opinion on this.

About 8 years ago I had an affair with another man due largely in part to my husband’s lack of emotional attachment and years of verbal and mental abuse. He found out about the affair but we reconciled and remained married. I have not strayed since and realized my past indiscretion was due to depression. About three years ago my husband had a short fling of his own but he ended it and we still stayed together. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have three children. Recently he decided that he wants a divorce and consulted a lawyer.

My question is: Will my past affair have any bearing on whether or not I can receive alimony? Since we reconciled and stayed married for the last 8 years, is that considered condoning the affairs? Thank you for your help.