My children don't want to go back to their mothers


#1

Within the past 3 months I was granted Primary Physical custody of my two children ages almost 12 and 9. My x is in a very unstable relation ship with her exboyfriend but still lives with him b/c she has no where else to go. My x’s on again off again boyfriend has started being very rude to the children and they feel extremely unconfortable at his house. Tonight I told my oldest child she was to ride carpool tomorrow b/c her mother was picking her up and she broke down sobbing and said she didn’t want to go back to that house and she didn’t care to see her mom if she was going to keep them going back to that house. I spoke with her then she went to bed and her younger brother came downstairs and said his sister was in the bathroom crying again. WHAT CAN I DO??? I can’t let her not go, can I? I tried to speak with my x about this a few days ago and she wouldn’t hear it and she says that all is fine and the kids are happy and that she would speak with them when they went back to her on Thursday. They truly don’t want to go back. Is there anything I can do? Please help!


#2

I hope you were able to work out this issue- I can understand your situation- my 2 daughters did not want to go with their dad- they would fall onto the floor and cry- when I would try to talk with their dad about it he would get angry and take it out on them while they were there- well that was some 8 years ago and to this day they still remember how much they hated being with him and not because they loved me more but because he was a real jerk to them- he would pull up to the house and blow his horn like a crazy man - it was a very difficult time for everyone- thank god they are older now and are not forced to see him. Not all dads are like this- I don’t think just becasue you are the mom you should get the children- I actually feel bad for so many dads- they really do get the short end of the stick- wish our society could figure out why so many people divorce so that kids don’t have to pay the price for our inabilities to pick better parnters, etc… I wish you the best.


#3

I suggest you get the kids into counseling. It’s got to be so hard for them to deal with that situation. You as the CP though can’t keep her from the kids without chancing losing custody yourself. Get the kids someone to talk to so that they can sort out their feelings. I hope you come back and update!