My wife has an sexual affair with another man after 22 years and 3 kids. My son is 12 and a daugther 15. I think it started in May of 2009 based on phone records. I run a small busness and work just about every day.
I knew something was going on early Sept 09 so I put a tracking device on our van and on Nov 2 I followed her to the guys house in the country where I parked and stood by a window and listened to the sexual activity going on. I was devistated.
When I confronted her with it she told me that he did’nt mean a thing to her and that she was very sorry for what she had done to me. And after some long talks I forgave her and we reconciled. We even went to counseling a couple times.
I learned that one of her girlfriends knew about the affair. One day in late Nov. I walked in the bedroom and heard her talking to the friend and asking if she had any messages and that she would write him something. When I confronted her about that she made up a story that I realy didnt believe.
Her friend went through a devorice about 5 years ago with her husban cheating and would know alot about the laws.
I put a recorder in that bathroom only to find out that yes she was still talking to him through TXTing to her friends phone and the friend forwarding to him and him back the same way.
So when I asked her again about this thing she confesed up. I asked her to explain why she was still talking to him she said it was friendship and that in tears it would never happen again.
Now, like I said, I love my wife and famley and the home that we have worked so hard to have. And right now I don’t want to devorce her and she says the same. But I get the feeling that my wife and the guy may have a future plan.
My fear is that sometime in the future she will devorice me and end up with everything and I will be put out of the home I have built working for the past 22 years.
I have explained to my wife my fear. We aggreed to put someting legal in writing that if she ever desided to leave me that I would not pay any alimony and that when everything is divided up that in the end I would keep the home. Is this possible?