Hi, I have an appointment with a lawyer in a few weeks but I really need to get out of my house. I want to separate from my husband- he is being emotionally and verbally abusive and is currently in a manic state (all of his friends/ family/ doctors/ colleagues are concerned and he is not interested in treatment. He has been an alcoholic in the past and has been sober for over a year- and this manic episode is new.) Problem is, he is the main provider, and he is a financial advisor and controls everything. I do have my own checking account, and my name is on a few things, including the house, but I have no access to any documents. Yesterday he threatened to take me off his health insurance if I didn’t “commit” to the marriage. I don’t want the house, but I don’t want to lose rights to anything by leaving. We have only been married 4 years but when I moved in with him, I took care of his kids (he was a full time single dad), dropped my job to part time bc his life needed serious help. His income has increased dramatically with my support. That first year was over 30 %. He does not think I have added anything to the marriage so there will be no nice fair negotiations in separation. How can I move out for my own health and safety and mental well being, without losing my rights to my health insurance and any post separation support? Thank you.
Also- I went to visit family last weekend and he sent me streams of nasty texts while I was gone. He even said he was marking our separation date as May 6. He said when I come home to either bring 10K (random- he’s manic and trying to raise funds for a crazy business project) or bring a suitcase. The following day without apology he said I love you, and acted as if he hadn’t said anything.