Oriention for Mediation was a great experience!

Bitterness is inevitable. Divorce sucks and legal battles suck even more. BUT bitterness RARELY solves anything legally other than making you miserable and making everyone you’re involved with miserable. It’s just a waste of time.

I’m hoping the best for you and your situation. [:D]

That’s exactly what we figured out when my husband and his ex went to mediation. Though we did not break many of the rules due to some good advice from some others, his ex did and still does to some extent. We figured out that the children have the right to love and be with each parent and that we should not put them in the position to have to choose between their parents. Sort of putting in the child’s perspective makes a difference.

Good luck to you and I hope your ex learns that custody is not the way to get back at you for the things that went wrong in your marriage or any other perceived wrongs.

I am glad you found mediation to be a positive experience.

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Wow, my ex having me summonsed for custody and having to attend mandatory Orientation/Mediation was the best thing he could have done. You walk into a court room setting and they mediators tare into all the bitter angry parents. First things first, our children did not ask to come into this situation. They informed us that how we act toward each other is how our children will grow up to act. Anyway, my ex and I break most of the rules that you aren’t supposed to as to how we treat each other. I hope he realizes and admits this as well when we have our “official” mediation. I have lil’ hope though because of his threats to have his lawyer “plumet” me. I hope that these angry hateful years will end soon. I want a better way to live. I want a better future for our child than this. I am going to try to be more flexiable also. Wish us luck.