My husband and his ex-wife established a parenting agreement before we began our relationship. The parenting agreement has been in place for 3 years.
The parenting agreement is not equitable and now because his ex-wife is bitter that he has remarried, she refuses to agree to any adjustments.
He has them EVERY weekend during the school year and has requested multiple times to change that to a more equitable schedule so that he can have them some during the week. Every weekend is not reasonable, but also he wants to participate more in their school week (homework, school drop off etc). She refuses. the summer schedule is a 2-2-3 split equally and he has asked for that to be the year-round schedule.
Thanksgiving and Christmas - in the agreement, it says Thanksgiving will be SPLIT (half the day with mom, the other half dad). This works for her because her family is IN TOWN - my family is not in town which means we can NEVER have Thanksgiving with my aging parents and family unless they come to us. He has asked her to change to every other Thanksgiving Day and she refuses.
The agreement also says Christmas Eve is with her and that he will get them 1/2 of Christmas Day. This is ridiculous - again - this means we can NEVER travel on Christmas and it is not fair they wake up for Santa with her every year - then they come to us later and we try to make it exciting but of course the thrill is not the same.
He has asked her repeatedly to amend the agreement - she refuses and will not even consider it…
Is court the ONLY option? They have tried mediation with no success.
He pays MORE than the court ordered child support, he carries them on his insurance and then they split every expense for the children. According to the NC Child support calculator, he really should have to pay nothing because of the number of days he has them and the fact that she dropped them from her insurance.