I would just like to say you were correct in saying," go to mediation on child custody and child support, try to come to SOME agreements".
I would just like to say to others who read this post, PARENTS come to some agreement (go to mediation NOT the judges) about how to raise your child/children, DON’T take this before a judge.
I am not condemning the courts, I think there is room for much improvement before the judges in family court. There are judges that do not follow legal procedures and he/she issues orders with false and/or insufficient information just to get the case off his/her docket.
I personally would suggest a fact-finding committee to determine just what problems result from the current system. Propose effective alternatives that could be implemented to help fix these problems.
Happier, healthier children being raised as the results of their parents, without the parents duking it out under the current legal rules & regulations.
A family court judge in my county just gave orders for visition to a friend of mine for her child who is just a toddler. The father had not seen the child for 21 months, did not want anything to do with the child until the mother filed for divorce, custody and child support. Father had not paid one penny for support in all these months. Now, the judge gave the father supervised visitation for ONLY a FEW WEEKS before the father can take the child for overnight visits. I can only think how TRAMUTIZING these will be for the child. The child does not know this person. Child support, another issue. The father was given a pat on the back by the judge. Pay child support if you want too. MY,MY what a system. By the way, the parents was in mediation (two) times, the father wouldn’t agree. He wanted to go before the judge, WELL, I suppose it was a good thing for him. Where is the “BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD” in this case??