Please help me


#1

Dear raingurl:

Greetings. Call the police and have him moved. If you have an order giving you the house, go and have a locksmith change the locks again and move back in. Call the police when he shows up. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

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#2

I did call the police and they had to let him go per the magistrate who said the judge (Royster, who has been divorced about 5 times and a man avocate. I have to file papers and go to court and prove he is in contempt. I did. He did not show up for court. Royster shows up again and said we have to waite until after mediation to hear the contempt case, we mediated, he then “appealed” the judges decision so he is still there in the house . Nothing works the right way here in this town It is a man club and my ex is tied to all of them. Someone is going to get hurt here.

ote]Originally posted by JanetFritts

Dear raingurl:

Greetings. Call the police and have him moved. If you have an order giving you the house, go and have a locksmith change the locks again and move back in. Call the police when he shows up. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.
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#3

Dear raingurl:

Greetings. First, please rescind and explain what you meant by “someone is going to get hurt here” since that is a horrible statement that may be used against you later - since the facts of your case would be recognizable.

Now, my suggestion is that you go in when he is not there and change the locks on him, since you have an order stating it is your house, that is what I would do. Then, when the police come, show them the order. Should be a non-issue.

Also, buy one or two large dogs - preferably Rottweilers, AmStafs, or German Shepherds…that should make it at least interesting if he tries to break in on you! Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#4

Janet,Please let me clarify… I ment that I am afraid for ME, not that I would kill him. For Gods sake!!! IF that were the case he would already be dead, not living next door.So relax. I am afraid because I believe that eventually with all he has done to try and win the rights to that house that he has cracked and will get more hostile and devious with each time he is told no after being so sure will win and spending great amounts on money on court and appeals. I also fear that if I go through the trouble of doing just what you said that he in fact will finally get a judge to change the decision and I will just have to move my kids yet again. Besides he said if I get the house he will just stop making the payment and let it foreclose. Can he do this? He always has an “if you this , I will do this” ready for me. I always have to turn a trick for him , give up something else or he does something to punish me even worse than the last time. Yes…I am afraid of how far he will take this. He is very convincing, the megar type that everyone in town loves…they do not know what I have endured mentally throughout this marriage. He is an emotional monster.No one would ever believe me. I would never do anything that would cause me to be seperated from my children or for my own soul to rot in hell over him of all things. He has taken enough of my life from me. Also If I do change the locks and move back in what will be the legal action for all of his things being in the house? How will I be punished by doing this? Thank you for your time.
Rain

quote:
Originally posted by JanetFritts

Dear raingurl:

Greetings. First, please rescind and explain what you meant by “someone is going to get hurt here” since that is a horrible statement that may be used against you later - since the facts of your case would be recognizable.

Now, my suggestion is that you go in when he is not there and change the locks on him, since you have an order stating it is your house, that is what I would do. Then, when the police come, show them the order. Should be a non-issue.

Also, buy one or two large dogs - preferably Rottweilers, AmStafs, or German Shepherds…that should make it at least interesting if he tries to break in on you! Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.



#5

Janet: the more I think about what you said here about my having said a “horrible thing that could be used against me later”, the more offended I am. You made it sound like I had just threatened to commit some sort of violent act and I did not say anything to that effect. You made that up in your own head. This is the kind of thing that happens all the time. People (like you) who are in legal professions make these kinds of statements and the next thing we poor laymen bastards know the friggin FBI are on the doorstep. I would never hurt my X. He is not worth my going to prison. Granted…if he drops dead tomorrow of natural causes I do not give a **** about it. You need to realize that saying “someone is going to get hurt here” are words that can have many meanings. Did you ever concider emotional hurt? Spiritual hurt, my childrens hurt, our mental hurt, and yes physical hurt? There are many ways to “be” hurt and “to” hurt. It does not always mean a scene from “Psycho” is about to unfurl. I was not only offended by what you said I also felt somewhat threatened by it. Perhaps this was not your intent but you must concider (in my own defense) that you nor I can know what the intent or feeling is behind a written word…to preceive true communication the visuals of expression and body language as well as tonality and sound all direct meaning and aid us in interperting words. Don’t you agree?

quote:
Originally posted by raingurl
Janet,Please let me clarify... I ment that I am afraid for ME, not that I would kill him. For Gods sake!!!!! IF that were the case he would already be dead, not living next door.So relax. I am afraid because I believe that eventually with all he has done to try and win the rights to that house that he has cracked and will get more hostile and devious with each time he is told no after being so sure will win and spending great amounts on money on court and appeals. I also fear that if I go through the trouble of doing just what you said that he in fact will finally get a judge to change the decision and I will just have to move my kids yet again. Besides he said if I get the house he will just stop making the payment and let it foreclose. Can he do this? He always has an "if you this , I will do this" ready for me. I always have to turn a trick for him , give up something else or he does something to punish me even worse than the last time. Yes...I am afraid of how far he will take this. He is very convincing, the megar type that everyone in town loves..they do not know what I have endured mentally throughout this marriage. He is an emotional monster.No one would ever believe me. I would never do anything that would cause me to be seperated from my children or for my own soul to rot in hell over him of all things. He has taken enough of my life from me. Also If I do change the locks and move back in what will be the legal action for all of his things being in the house? How will I be punished by doing this? Thank you for your time. Rain
quote:
Originally posted by JanetFritts
Dear raingurl:

Greetings. First, please rescind and explain what you meant by “someone is going to get hurt here” since that is a horrible statement that may be used against you later - since the facts of your case would be recognizable.

Now, my suggestion is that you go in when he is not there and change the locks on him, since you have an order stating it is your house, that is what I would do. Then, when the police come, show them the order. Should be a non-issue.

Also, buy one or two large dogs - preferably Rottweilers, AmStafs, or German Shepherds…that should make it at least interesting if he tries to break in on you! Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.




#6

Raingirl,

I normally do not chime in on other’s posts, but this one I feel I should. When I read your post and read the statement about someone getting hurt, I, too, thought there was a violent implication. Janet is just trying to make sure that if something did happen to your EX that you could not be held accountable…no accusations, just a matter of perception, and a simple request for clarification to ensure nothing and nobody is being threatened. Personally, I think you have overreacted and I am sure you will have your peace to say about my opinion, but this is the only post/reply I will engage in and it is simply to let you know that others had the same thoughts regarding your post. Additionally, it is important that you realize you are using a FREE forum and if you don’t like your answer or suggestion then simply refrain from using the forum and not need to waste the lawyer


#7

Hon…I would advise you the same way…if you don’t like what I have said STA…CY…then perhaps you should refrain your comments since I was not talking to you nor dO I care about your opinion any more than you do about my feeling offended and standing up for myself. For the record, I have removed myself from this Q & A hotline.


#8

Dear raingurl:

Greetings. Since you explained your post there is no issue. I find it amazing, and quite amusing, that you are so sensitive about written words on a public forum. When I say something to help and you take it as something to hurt, that is on you. Reactions are the responsibility of the reactor. Thanks for clarifying your position and good luck in the future.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#9

my husband left me.we have three boys.20,15,&13.the children and I lived in our maritial home on a large estate, I havealways stayed at home with our kids. my husband took me to court to gain possession the maritial home and was denied.the divorce became final. he turned off all the utilities and forced us out of the house. we retreated to the guest house(very small) he took me back to court again to get the house and was again denied,this being over I began to prepare the main house so we could move back in, I came home from school one day to find him completely moved in and the locks all changed and my things are still in this house. He is in there against two court orders. I have been displaced for two years now, I have been to court,he was denied possession and there he is. the courts here say i can’t do anything, I have to take him to court to prove contempt, so he just appealed the court decision . So My kids and I are not in our home…he is. I cannot understand how he can do this and how we can be displaced when I have already been to court and two judges have made the decision that he cannot live there but there he is and I cannot have him removed? I want to go home.I want my children to have the amminities they are used to and I want to have what has been awarded to me and denied to him. I spent a fortune going to court fighting him and won and I still do not have what I was awarded…how can this be …I am beginning to wonder who wears the black cloak here in Davidson County…the judge or my ex.