First things first, do you want your child to come back to North Carolina? How long has the child been gone? Are you paying child support? Who is she living with? How is she paying her bills now?
It is not true that dependent spouses don’t have to work in North Carolina. Sometimes, there is enough money to go around, even supporting two (2) separate households, but often this is not the case. When there is not enough money, there will still often be post separation support or alimony, but at a reduced amount so that both parties must work.
Visitation does not depend on paying anything. Child support is not linked to visitation. Visit often and request as much visitation as you can.
Finally (all that I can see to answer right now) you cannot afford to NOT retain an attorney in your situation. She needs to pay for half the debt if it is marital. That may mean that you have to foot the bill now and she pays you back later. That may mean that you take on the debt instead of paying alimony. Best of luck!
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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