Greetings. First, it is my opinion that you need a full financial and legal review…which would include valuing your pensions, valuing any retirement accounts she has, etc.
If alimony is incorporated in the property settlement, then I am not sure what you are asking. If you already have a final, signed agreement, it cannot be modified unless by agreement of the parties - which she will not do.
If you do not have a separation agreement, you are back to creating a financial and legal review prior to taking any subsequent action.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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