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Dear melixanna:

Greetings. I am sorry to hear that your mother-in-law is harrassing you. First, have you already dealt with the issues of equitable distribution and alimony?

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
RosenDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.

We split all the things in the house when I left. On the papers she sent it says qoute “The parites have no claim for purposes of Equitable Distribution under North Carolina Law” which we don’t and we were only married since 2001 and I don’t want alimony. In all honesty I really don’t want to have to make this into a huge deal. I just want to make sure that I am not going to be stuck with any ongoing debt he has gotten into since I left.

Dear Melixanna:

I still cannot answer you on whether or not the papers “sound legal” to me. Remember that separation agreements don’t have to be a big deal. We review separation agreements in our initial consultations - some people then go off and sign what they have, but many others realize that the agreement is not in their best interests and they hire us to help them draft one in their best interest. Without reading your agreement myself, I cannot tell you whether or not you are going to be stuck with any ongoing debt.

Finally, other than blocking her telephone number, I cannot think of a quick way for you to stop her from harassing you. I don’t advise blocking her number either, as you may need her help in the future with child custody and child support issues. My advice in dealing with her is to take the high road, deal only in respect, and keep your head up! Best of luck.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
RosenDivorce.com
919-787-6668

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.

Ok my husband and I have not been living together since September 21, 2003. He’s in korea and supposedly came home on leave and had his mother file the divorce papers. She sent me the papers. Which are copies. It says its a civil summons. There is a verification of who he is and where he had to sign in front of a notary. What seems to be fishy to me is that there is no stamp signifying the notary is real and another thing is there is there is no place for me to sign on the papers as the defendant. No place to verify who I am in front of a notary. My mother in law called me today harrassing me b/c I hadn’t sent the papers back yet. She wants me to write a letter waiving my right to a hearing and saying that I agree to everything in papers. My fear is that she will make different divorce papers and I can’t contest them b/c she will have the letter from me saying I waive my right. In the process of constantly harrassing me these past two weeks she said in North Carolina if I don’t contest the papers that the divorce will be final anyways in 30 days. It’s not that I want to contest the divorce but I want to protect myself from her doing anything. My question is do the papers sound legal and what can I do about her harrassment.