After a year of separation I’m moving forward with the divorce and my wife sprung on me that she wants me to pay spousal support of $900 per month (far more than my offer) for 15 years and thinks this is not only reasonable but actually low. She is disabled but on disability (depression/anxiety), has a part time work providing money and a place to live. Against me would be the fact that I’ve had a girlfriend since the separation…although she actually started dating me during her prior separation and (years ago) had an affair.
I was a good husband though and helped put her though school even though it was unreasonable to try at that time (she has a college degree, I don’t) and did most of the household work. She was a bad wife, overspending (driving us to bankruptcy), always spending time out with her friends and never out with me, didn’t help around the house or even for herself, etc. I’ll have about 2300/month after taxes and required deductions (pension)…she’ll have about $1700/month in total compensation after taxes. Oh, and yes, I understand that she’s potentially entitled to the equivalent of half my pension for the time of the marriage.
This $900 amount seems unreasonable even if it is to help with medical bills (for conditions which predate the marriage). Wouldn’t any actual spousal support requirement be a fraction of this for a fraction of the time or at least…something I could actually pay?