Greetings. First, I finally understand from this post what you were saying in the last post (you may also want to keep the posts shorter, as my time is primarily for clients, so sometimes I cannot answer long posts):
You cannot simply add a statement to an Answer and Counterclaim or to the divorce judgment about child custody (which is the terms you need to use for visitation issues from now one). Child custody is a claim which is separate from divorce.
You would need to make a motion in North Carolina to register the out of state court action here in North Carolina and then make a Motion to Modify Child Custody. On the other hand, you may also need to request that the court in the other state relinquish jurisdiction. So that would mean two attorneys - one in North Carolina and one in the last jurisdiction where child custody issues took place.
The former state must relinquish jurisdiction, which it may not do depending on how contentious your child custody matters have been.
Finally, please remember that child support and child custody are completely separate issues. Paying child support does not mean that you should/will have access to your child. In the same vane, not paying child support is also not a factor for visitations. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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