Dear DreamerKnightz:
First, I am happy to see that you understand and appareciate the need for therapy for children who are the subject of a divorce. I understand from your post that your children were traumatized by the custody situation. It is important to promote a healthy visitation schedule between your children and their father, even when they say that they do not want to go. If there is abuse, you should immediately seek a modification of the order to supervised visitation. Otherwise, you need to promote your children’s visitation by saying positive things about the other parent, telling the children to visit as often as possible, and suggesting fun things their father can do with the children if he requires your assistance concerning his behavior as a parent. The court may wonder why young children do not want to visit with the other parent and may believe that some alienation is occuring.
I wish you the best of luck with this situation and hope that your children keep doing well with their therapy.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668
The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.
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Thank u for getting back with me so quickly. Yes they had a real hard time dealing with the custody issue. Since their dad left them and was gone for 3 years and just pops back in thier life and boom he is remarried and fighting for custody. I understand that someone might see that the children not going to thier dads might be a sign of alienation. I dont want the judge or anyone else to think that I do not want my children to see thier father. First I do have a problem with him being alone with them. I have always told him that he can see them at anytime. I try very hard to get the children to go for visits they look at me and say “mommie daddy doesnt do what he promises us that he is going to do. He leaves us with his new wife”.
My son played basketball and his father never once came to see one of his games. He has yet to come by to see them as we asked him to do so that we can figure out what we can do to get the kids to feel more comfortable about going. I really dont want a judge to think that I am keeping them from going. I tell them that they are suppose to go cause it is court ordered to do so. I try to do what I can to get them to go but they refuse everytime. I always make the kids call him to ask thier father if they can stay. I have to get a paper signed everytime they do not go to say that we both agree that they did not have to go to their dads on his weekends. I have gotten those papers that he has signed.
Yes I do hope I am doing the right thing with this. The therapist is seems to think so. I hope I didnt ramble again and u understood wut I was trying to get through on this post.
I asked a question if thier was anything I could do about the mother-in-law kidnapping my children from the doctors office?
dreamer of all dreamz
Dear Dreamerknightz:
In the event that she “kidnaps” your children without your consent or the consent of your husband, I suggest that you contact your husband first to have him intervene and then contact the police. Best of luck with this difficult situation.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
NCDivorce.com
919-787-6668
The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.
Thanks for getting back with me I think this site is really good and helps out alot of people that cant afford to go to a lawyer …
dreamer of all dreamz
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I am writing to u on a subject of visitation… I have a few actually. If a child has emotional problems about going to his fathers on thier weekends. I am court ordered for them to go. I have them in therapy at this time and they have been for almost 3 years now.I have him telling me to go back into court and get the visits changed to supervised visits. Now ever since Feb my children havent gone with him on his weekends they call and ask if they have to go adn he says no it is ok u dont have to come. Now will that come back and bite me in the butt…since I have it in writing that they stayed with me. Or would a judge look at it like he dont even care to see his kids so let her have wut she is asking for… Since our court case was over in Nov of 2002 and it was very nasty. I just want wut is best for my children and night mares are not healthy when it is about their father kidnapping them again. One more question… Before the custody battle started over my children they were kidnapped from me and he didnt return them to me for over a month in which he got that month off of his arrears of his child support. At that time neither of us had custody and we were never married could I get his mother-in-law for kidnapping them from me? I am not sure if u can help me with that question so any information u can give me would be great. Thank u so much for u r time…
dreamer of all dreamz