My wife has had an affair and has moved out of the house (early August). While she wanted the girls (we have two young girls) 2 overnights a week, I refused b/c of safety concerns that I had. While she stated in an e-mail that I cannot legally keep the girls from being with her overnight, she “respects my decision.” She sees the girls roughly 9-10 hours per week (on 3 different days). My question is this: We do not have any legal papers signed and I feel like we should get a separation agreement signed asap. But another part of me doesn’t want to irritate her to the point where she demands having the girls overnights. Another fear I have is that she might demand them half of the time once she realizes that she would have to pay me child support. A lawyer friend of mine says that the longer the current situation continues, the better it will look for me if our case ever goes in front of a judge b/c she is basically indicating (by not challenging the no overnights) that the current situation is acceptable to her. What are your thoughts on this?
Dating question: Since I have evidence of an affair, I do not want to jeopardize any advantage I have in regards to not having to pay her alimony. Would dating with no sex be acceptable for me or could this nullify her affair in the eyes of the court?
Thank you so much!