Greetings. Please note that just because you do not have “joint” property, it does not mean there is no marital property. Did both of you work and contribute to retirement during the marriage? If so, then your retirement assets (accumulated during the marriage) are marital, regardless of how they are titled.
Next, yes you can date after the date of separation, but you need to understand that adultery is a crime in North Carolina. See the link below. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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