Greetings. First, I would not agree to joint custody if you feel uncomfortable with your daughter living with your wife and her new boyfriend. Clearly, you cannot agree for your child to live every other week away from you if your wife lives 3-4 hours a week. What will happen with school.
Your wife is not entitled to alimony since she has committed adultery.
Your wife is entitled to half of the income tax refund if you filed jointly. You may be able to agree with her to prorate the amount in your separation agreement.
I do not see any other actual questions, so please let me know what other issues you need addressed. Thank you.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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