Joint custody vs sole custody


#1

Dear l8084y:

Greetings. The question I have is why do you want sole custody and why does your spouse want joint custody?

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

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#2

Spouse wants joint custody so as to be apart of the decision making.
Spouse is concerned that there will be “no say” on their part with regard to child if sole custody. I want sole custody because we never agree on the decision making and related parenting issues and joint custody will still create conflicts. I do not want to get “clearance” from spouse with everything that child may want to do or not do. I would rather be the sole decision maker. Any thoughts or suggestions?


#3

Dear l8084y:

Greetings. It sounds to me like you may end up with one of the following:

  1. Joint custody with a neutral third party named that can make the decisions during disputes for you.

  2. Sole custody except for certain issues that require your spouse’s agreement to first. For example, you make all decisions that he does not have to pay for.

I hope those ideas help for you. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

ROSENDIVORCE.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#4

I want sole custody. Spouse wants joint custody. Any suggestions on how we can compromise and work together on this issue?

Thank you.