Custody

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Originally posted by gr8lady
I want sole custody of my children, he wants joint because he thinks it gives him the same rights as I will have to the children. Is he right? What rights does he lose if I have sole custody?

I’m thinking only of my children by wanting sole custody as he has been in and out of prison for parole violations. He just disappears and leaves the children wondering where he is or if he is o.k until he is picked up and then calls to say he is locked up. Children are 7 and 9.


[quote]Originally posted by gr8lady
Sorry, about the duplicate post, trying to understand how this positng system works.

Anyway, not sure it will help any but also to my earlier post:

I do live in NC. My husband is a on again off again drug user and has been for 8 years of our marriage. I’m not stopping him from seeing the children, he sees them at my home and at his mom’s. She lives just down the street so he could see them everyday but doesn’t. I don’t want to stop him from seeing them once we are divorced but I don’t think that he should have a say over major matters around the children either. My children love their dad despite the fact that he has walked out of their lives many, many times and I’m glad they do, he is their father. I’m also concerned on visition. What is to stop him from going off again on a drug binge when he has the children.

Dear gr8lady:

Spring Greetings. Sole custody would mean that you would be able to make the major decisions about the children, including school choices, medical treatment, etc. I cannot imagine that the court would grant a repeat parole violator joint custody though, so I would stick to my position if I were you. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

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I want sole custody of my children, he wants joint because he thinks it gives him the same rights as I will have to the children. Is he right? What rights does he lose if I have sole custody?

I’m thinking only of my children by wanting sole custody as he has been in and out of prison for parole violations. He just disappears and leaves the children wondering where he is or if he is o.k until he is picked up and then calls to say he is locked up. Children are 7 and 9.