So lost. Any advice is welcomed

North Carolina Divorce Law
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Hello.

My husband left me and has filed for divorce. I need to know my rights and what I can do in my situation. I have many health problems and have for years. I am unemployed, he has a full-time job. He has been taking care of the bills so far. I get $40 a week for an allowance. I have gone without medications, medical treatment and haven’t been able to get various necessities; personal hygiene and etc. I have no income; and I haven’t since I was taken out of work due to my health in 2014. I am in the middle of a disability case; and I’m waiting for a hearing or a decision. Or for some income to come my way. I have been applying for jobs, against doctor’s wishes. And no luck with any jobs yet. But I have to have an income to survive. I have been applying for anything I could; a work-from-home job would be ideal with my health issues. We have had our ups and downs, but it was a surprise that when I got home from visiting my mom that day in May 2017. He already had a place to live and moved only part of his belongings. He claims he moved in with “a buddy from work”. I have no idea where he moved or who he moved in with. And his stories change all the time. It seems that ALL things point to him cheating and there being someone else involved. Of course, he always denies it. I have pictures of various things he was trying to hide from me in the house before he moved out. I have asked him for a reason and he says, “because he was miserable” and the rest always changes. I really need to know my rights, what is going to happen, and any help I may need. If alienation of affection is something I can peruse against whoever this other person is. I don’t have any income so obviously that means I can’t afford an attorney. Are there any pro bono, free, will charge later, or will charge my ex since he wants the divorce? I had wanted counseling; that didn’t happen.

We’ve been married for 7 years as of April 9th, 2011. We’ve been together a total of 13 years as of July 20th, 2018.

That’s just a brief description. I can give a lot more information, more details, pictures and witnesses to whomever may need it. Please help me, I am so lost.

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You will need to file litigation against your husband for equitable distribution, postseparation support, alimony, attorney’s fees, and any other claims you qualify for.

Take a look at our Sample Complaint that you can use as a guide in drafting your own.

Also, check out our article Navigating Basic Court Procedure in North Carolina for detailed information on the litigation process.

We also offer two free Webinars, Divorce Legal and 50 Divorce Tips in 50 Minutes, that you may find very helpful as you begin the divorce process. These webinars will give you lots of information about a divorce and they are presented multiple times a week.

You can sue a third party for alienation of affection, but you will have to know who that person is, their address, and you will have to have evidence of them alienating the love and affection in your marriage. Our article Infidelity and Alienation of Affection has detailed information about this claim.

Anna Ayscue

Attorney with Rosen Law Firm Cary • Chapel Hill • Durham • Raleigh • Wake Forest

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