I’m going to answer your last question first. Your spouse is the person in the world that knows how to push your buttons better than anyone else. He obviously senses that you have a lot of fear and anxiety surrounding this situation and has decided to capitalize on it. You should stop listening to him and let your attorney handle it.
If the court has already made an award of PSS and child support, the court has already decided he can afford that amount. So if he manages his money poorly and must go into debt to pay, that is his problem not the courts. The courts will not care how he comes up with the money, they will force him to pay the amount they have ordered.
He can refuse to comply with a court order, but if he does he could be looking at sanctions including fines and jail time. So it would not be a wise decision for him to do that. If he refuses to pay your attorney will file a Motion and Order to Show Cause and ask the court to hold him in contempt.
He cannot black mail you into not suing his girlfriend. If you already have an order requiring him to pay support. You simply need to take him to court to enforce that order.
Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm
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