My ex decided this past year (2006) that she didn’t want to be married anymore.
We split up. 6-9 months later we started going through battles because she couldn’t own up to her responsibilities for what she has done to our family.
Now I find that every 2-3 months she is consistently having her attorney harrass me with requests for my personal records such as my home purchase recoerds- loan application, closing documents, all of the statements from my bank accounts for three months, etc. I just recieved a new subpeona this week requesting that information AGAIN!
Only difference this time is that I have bought a house three months ago for me and my son. she is going to press forward with child custody modification to obtain full custody- not sure how to stop that either since all the attorneys I have talked to say that nothing that she has done now or in the course of the marriage such as having affairs with mutiple people, excessively drinking, etc would even come into play.
I am trying to protect myself from this invasion of my privacy but for some reason there is no attorney that can tell me how to keep her out of my personal business! The documents she is requesting have no bearing on childsupport issues or anything pertinent to anything regarding our divorce or otherwise. If it were for child support then the only factor that comes into play would be my gross annual income and that is all they should be allowed access.
She works for a law firm in Durham and I have suspicions that she is using the legal resources at her office to delve into my credit information without my consent. My suspicions are based on verbal communication with her about issues into my personal finances that there is no way she should know unhless she is accessing that information illegally.
We have child custody order in place, we have equitable dist order in place which essentially states that she has not right to poke around in my business as we are living apart and separate as though we were never married. I am having to pursue having all of my credit accounts on credit watch. If I see that any inquiries have come from her office I will have to file a complaint with the bar association and have her boss disbarred (I am sure he knows about it but will disavow it)and have her paralegal license yanked.
What I want to know is if she can do this to me how can I go on the offensive and “legally” harass her to keep her busy enough that she won’t be able to think about harrasing me anymore until the divorce is filed and final. I filed for D this week.
Can an attorney offer any suggestions about how I can go about filing a subpeona for her information? I haven’t been able to find any pro se documents on the matter in the Durham family court website.
BTW, I am a former Rosen client- if that means anything…