Yes, usually the parent who has been taking care of the child for that period of time will obtain custody. Back support is also owed.
Some folks consider terminating the parental rights of a parent who has been so uninvolved but that would mean that you would no longer be able to seek child support.
Lee S. Rosen
Board Certified Family Law Specialist
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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