Unless there is something specified in your papers, then neither parent is entirely responsible for transportations on visits.
Maybe you could offer to meet him 1/2 way for pick up and drop off?? Maybe your ex doesn’t think that it’s fair for him to have to do all the driving…
If you truly want to be fair then you should consider splitting the cost, the driving and the time.
As far as the arguing goes…pick your battles. If you don’t want to argue over everything, then DON’T argue. Unless your ex is asking something completely unreasonable, then work with him on some of this stuff…it will make your life easier. Trust me.

If you went to court to address these issues generally the court will order the parties to share transportation. It sounds like the two of you have many small issues popping up and it may be helpful for you to go to mediation and try to work out on some of these issues that are causing conflict.

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My ex has just told me that he will not bring our son home after his visitation with him and that I will have to drive to pick him up? Is that fair? He just moved 45 minute round trip from our home and now he says I have to make the drive to pick him up. I thought it was his responsibility to pick him up and drop him back off? We are arguing over every detail these days? I know we should stop, but with the price of gas and the time commitment I am just wondering how this works?