Don’t know about the alimony but I do know a little about cs. My x and I had an uncontested divorce and we worked cs out ourselves. She and I agreed on a very low amount b/c at that time I did not have a real good paying job. She did however get angry with me at one point and so she brought our case up to DSS. This is when the governement steped in. They did not change the amount of cs we had agreed upon but my payments started going through them to get to her.
Your x however, does not seem like she will be one to settle with you willingly. She cannot just make up an amount for you to pay for cs, if she does then you actually have to agree to it. Either go to the CS calculator on the home page of this site, or go to nddhacts01.dhhs.state.nc.us/hom … kSheet.jsp
if you live in NC. This site gives you all of the information you need to know and it is the worksheets that the social workers use. This will give you an idea of what you should be paying. If your x tries to get you to agree to more it would then be your choice. Either sign her papers or talk with a social worker. You typically can try to resolve things with your childs social worker. If you and your x do not agree and the social worker cannot help you out, then you will need to go to court.
Hope this helps!