I am seperated pending a divorce and have a 14 year old son who tried to tell me that he did not want to come over for his visitation with me but, his mother made him go because she is afraid it would look like she had turned the children against their father to the judge. I told him that he did not have to go if he did not want to. His younger brother age 12 was also told the same thing. But, the younger son looks forward to his visit with me. The older son has other interest with kids in his neighborhood. That is fine with me. he will someday come back over to visit I am sure. If he does not want to see his dad, then I will not force him to come. That would just turn him against me for good. Kids go through phases and I am sure that within the next year or 2, he will be wanting to buy a car. But, since he does not feel good old dad is worth spending time with then good old dad should not be expected to fork out the cash for a car for him either.