Children do not get to decide their own custody arrangements in NC. If the parents are unable to agree then a court has the authority to make the decision and the opinion of a 14 year old will be considered. These situation become very difficult with an older child that refuses to do what is ordered. When that happens I rarely see the parties satisfied with the outcome.
Good luck.
Lee S. Rosen
Board Certified Family Law Specialist
The Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
Rosen.com
(919)787-6668
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