Voluntary reductionof alimony and medical


#1

That seems like a lot to go through every month for peace. Why not just put it into the paperwork that this agreement will be in affect providing that the threatening stops? That you will be willing to work out an arrangement so long as his interferrence in your life stops. If the threats continue or begin then you can go back to the original agreement.
Protect yourself though. Make sure that before you agree to this that you get a recorder on your phone and make all necessary documentation so that when he does agree to sign this or if the threats begin again, you have something for court.


#2

Thank you so much…

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[i]Originally posted by stepmother[/i] [br]That seems like a lot to go through every month for peace. Why not just put it into the paperwork that this agreement will be in affect providing that the threatening stops? That you will be willing to work out an arrangement so long as his interferrence in your life stops. If the threats continue or begin then you can go back to the original agreement. Protect yourself though. Make sure that before you agree to this that you get a recorder on your phone and make all necessary documentation so that when he does agree to sign this or if the threats begin again, you have something for court.

#3

You should be careful and review your Agreement with an attorney before making this change. Your actions may permanently modify your Agreement. You should also know that people who engage in bullying and aggressive behavior rarely give up when the victim gives in, they simply find something new to bully about.

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#4

I am in the process of proposing to my ex-husband to reduce my alimony and pay my own medical monthly. This will save him $500 per month. He has been emotionally abusive, intimidating and a bulley for over 3 months and I can’t take it any longer. So in an effort to have him ease up I’m willing to make this sacrifice. In order to continue to survive and be the primary parent I have asked to go full-time and sell my car for a cheaper car. So my plan is the following to protect my self and my exisiting contract: Every month I will give my ex a notarized letter stating that I accept the reduction and will pay my own benefits for that month only… and I will give him this letter monthly so he will be protected from me sueing him for that money not paid. Does that make sense? I do not want to make this a permanent change, because if his behavior does not change then I have NO reason to compromise.