no one knows better than the parent(s) whats good and what isnt good for a child. to me its pure child abuse to force a child to agree to a courts decision when you see the effects that its having on them, most especially when the child isnt old enough to understand that the “judge says you have to” and that you have no control over it and no other choice.
child is 2.5 years old. since temp schedule of every other weekend…and court ordered schedule came about…2-2-3 which is technically a 2-2-5-5…these are the problems that have occured…
several months of diarrhea
several bouts of yeast infections
refusal at times to not go with other parent, and blah bland looks/actions when parents comes to get child
child repeatedly says father doesnt play with her, child repeatedly says she doesnt want to go when we try to get her pumped up for dads arrival
severe clinginess to the mother. mother cant even go to the bathroom without child throwing fits.
mother works, so child doesnt get to spend all day everyday with her when child is here for vists, but once mother is home, no one…and i mean no one can cater to the child but the mother…whether it be getting a drink, whether it be putting a cup in the sink, whether it be waking through the nights, whether it be getting her out of car seat…she wants NO ONE but her mother tending to her when she is home.
we did take her to a psychologist about night terrors, which terrors went on for 7 months. they have eased…but night times are still very rough! child averages 4 really good hours of sleep per night, but either talks in her sleep, cries out very often in her sleep, very restless in her sleep…and she actually wakes up twice through the night every single night.
when you see the effects that this is having on a child, what can a person do to get the courts to see that this just isnt “in the childs best interests” and to get the custody order revisited??? …we have videos of the night terrors, videos of the restless sleeps, and just started recording when her dad comes to get her, how blah and sad she looks when she sees his truck pull in…so right now we only have one of those…this is not fair to the child to FORCE her into something…when its SUPPOSED to be whats in the childs best interest!!! what in the world can someone do to help their child and not ruin them for life when you SEE that its NOT working for the child and you see the effects that its having on the child???