My husband of 18 years and I are trying to figure out child support for our 3 kids. We have used the calculator, but cannot find any guidelines on what that amount is supposed to cover. I expect it to cover all housing/clothing/activities while they’re with me (I’ll be primary custodian). Our divorce mediator stated that childcare and extracurriculars are typically paid for according to income, but I cannot find any legal support for that to show my husband to get him to agree to that in our separation agreement, and I don’t think he’ll agree to that without it. Was my divorce mediator mistaken or is her statement of what’s “typical” simply a convention rather than something specified in the law? Are there any guidelines that lay out what child support is supposed to cover?
Just as further background, I have been a stay-at-home mom and am transitioning back to the workforce because of the divorce, but currently have no income other than the support (I am getting the child support amount the calculator specified, plus some nominal alimony which will be reduced as I begin to generate my own income), and the support package I’m getting does not even begin to cover the monthly expenses of the family home/food/clothing, etc. I am borrowing from my family to make up the difference until I can get on my feet, but my husband keeps questioning why he should pay any more than the calculator says and that that amount should cover everything. Right now, my kids’ extracurriculars include piano lessons for the older two, karate for my middle son, and yearround swimming for my older daughter. I cannot swing any of those on the support I’m currently getting.