My husband has been divorced from his ex-wife for years now and they have an existing court order which she doesn’t follow. I know we can take her back to court but can’t afford to do so every time we don’t get a copy of a report card or she doesn’t return a phone call when we are supposed to talk to the children or when she decides to talk negatively about my husband in front of the children or not show up to drop them off on time for visitation. Even if the poor “victim”, as she claims to be, gets found guilty of contempt I’m sure she’ll get a fine (which her parents will pay) and the cycle will continue and nothing will change. The NC court system doesn’t seem to care that my husband is a good father and does everything possible to be a part of his children’s lives despite his ex-wife’s attempts to prevent him from doing so. Apart from going broke because we don’t have the money to keep an attorney at our beck and call to deal with all her petty crap nor the time to be in court every other week what can we do to have an iron in this fire? She is unstable at best but because her parents are actively involved in cleaning up her mess and constantly babysitting her (she’s in her early 30s), the children have a roof over their head and food in their stomach so we have resigned ourselves to the fact that there isn’t a chance on this earth that the court will do the right thing and hold her accountable for being an unfit parent and give us custody. With that being said, how do we go about forcing her to co-parent when there is a court order in place? I’ve heard of mediation but know nothing about it. Is mediation an appropriate option in a situation like ours or is there something else we can try?
Thank you for any advice you can offer. We are grasping at straws here!