I am a sister to a GOOD man who did nothing but love his family and gave his ALL to be the very best husband/provider and father that he could, only to find that his young bride of 3 years was an unfaithful, lying, scheming, conniving adulteress. My brother’s wife got CAUGHT IN THE ACT OF ADULTERY on Mother’s Day eve 2003. An annonymous phone call at 2AM tipped him off. It’s rather interesting that when she tells her story, my brother is the adulter and a bully. NOT! My brother did nothing but love this woman. Him being the good man that he is and coming from the good family that he did whereby good hometraining was instilled in him, he took his marriage vows seriously and he took his responsibilities as husband and father seriously.
Here’s what gets me. Since my brother’s wife is the cause of his family’s demise, why does the law favor HER having custody of their son when she’s the perpetrator? Why does the system allow her to financially destroy my brother, drain him of possessions (including gifts that were given TO HIM for birthdays and Christmases), not pay her portion of the bills causing their home to go into foreclosure? Why does the system allow my brother’s wife to take the child support check and skittle on about her way to buy manicures, pedicures, hairdos, new clothes and a new car? Meanwhile, my brother has had to return to his mom’s house to live! MY BROTHER DOES HAVE A LAWYER, but apparently there’s nothing that can be done (according to the lawyer) but ride this crap out.
Why is the damn system so against GOOD MEN!!! My brother has been labeled as guilty when HE IS THE VICTIM – he and my nephew! My nephew is being denied continued access to his ONE TRUE PARENT – his dad! All of this is totally unfair. My brother is being denied participation in the daily growth and development of his son because his wife has chosen to cop out of the marriage to play the role of a home-wrecking hoochie.
How can this woman get away with this? The laws need to be changed!!! So, my questions are these… 1) Are there any PRO SEPARATED/DIVORCED DAD organizations in the state or nationwide that address these issues? 2) Who do I contact to voice my complaints about how the judicial system works against GOOD DADS who desire full custody of their children? 3) Why doesn’t the judicial system recognize the TRUE parent in separation/divorce cases? Why is it automatically presumed that the mother is the best choice for being the child’s primary custodian when that isn’t always necessarily true?
Like in my brother’s case, HE IS THE PARENT — not the mother! His wife is a hip-hop, thug-loving, party-hopping hoochie who has a penchant for dropping their son off at relatives’ or her friends’ places while she goes out to do “her thang,” instead of letting the dad have that time with his son (which is the decent thing to do). I want to do something to help change these laws. It’s just not right.
My brother provided EXCEPTIONALLY for his family and had put them in a fine home in a wonderful neighborhood only 1.5 years after being married. He was in night school taking courses towards his college degree in order to better himself so that he could continuously advance professionally to provide even better for his family in the long term. My brother had planned for their financial future and sacrificed his needs to make sure that his wife and son had the “luxuries” (within reason) that they desired. My brother’s wife can’t see that she’s robbed her own son of HIS family and home. She’s so blind and ignorant that she can’t see how she has destroyed her own life. There’s nothing I can do to change her, but if there’s a way I can lend a voice to make positive changes in the laws for the sake of cases like my brother’s, then I want to do so. Thanks for listening, and I look forward to your reply.