Abusive email from children father

children’s father keeps sending me abusive emails. I’ve included an example where he slanders me to my daughter’s therapist. What steps can I take to make this stop?

“Tamanna used to smoke with her friends at Atrium and would often come home around 1 or 2 a.m. This was a significant issue in our marriage, especially since I don’t smoke or drink. I’m worried that Eshi might have had access to marijuana and even asked her mom to smoke with her. Such behavior usually reflects what parents are involved in themselves.

I can take Eshi to dinner and the cat café, which she wanted to do on Friday. However, until we have clear answers about the drugs, phone, and her digital devices—especially given that Tamanna used these issues to instigate a fight with Ehsal—it’s too soon for Eshi to spend the night at my house. As you know, she physically assaulted my wife last time to get her phone back, and she did get it back. Unless we have a written agreement that the same rules apply in both homes, it wouldn’t be appropriate for Eshi to stay here. As you recall this was my first ask when she was enrolled and also when I learned mom gave her a phone with access to social media.

I also want to start counseling with her to establish boundaries. If Tamanna is willing to grant 100% custody, I’m prepared to pick her up and have her stay at my house. This way, I can ensure she has no access to vapes, phones, or anyone who smokes marijuana, particularly given that Tamanna and her sisters are involved with multiple partners.”

The best thing is for you to file a custody lawsuit against the other parent if you don’t already have a custody court order.

Your child’s therapist doesn’t have authority to set a custody schedule.


Anna Ayscue

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