I have been pretty unsure of myself, here, and though many people say that I am “right”, I have had a few bad experiences, and wanted to ask. I have looked up the definition of contempt and read a few of the different NC cases where there are some reasonable reasons for a party to not be in contempt. so in short:
- ex and I have a shared parenting agreement and things have been going fabulously for 5 years, few arguments, family holidays etc.
- there is a court order that is relatively vague but does have us as split custody and we did have equal visitations
- for nearly 2 years, ex and his girlfriend have had many explosive fights, and got to the point of ex moving in and out of “her” home, and since he and I had split custody, each and every time he moved…our daughter moved as well
- totally nearly 25 times in 1 year…meaning every other visitation time he moved her.
- He and I discussed the issues each and every time, it got to the point where she simply refused to go, so we took her to a therapist who said that the instability was definitely the culprit and he had to figure something out.
- We had a meeting with a mutual friend, ex agreed that if he had to move one more time, that I would keep our child until he had a more stable situation.
- he moved again (3 more times) and finally we agreed that I would keep her for 30 days straight (with him taking her to lunch, dinner, still seeing her, just not for overnights), until he was in a more stable situation.
- during this time he became angry and agitated and said he had changed his mind and wanted her. I refused and made him stick to our 30 day agreement, but told him that he could see her anytime he wanted. at the end of the 30 days, I contacted him and informed him that the 30 days were up and asked if his situation was stable enough for our daughter…his response was to file contempt charges…
By LEGAL definition…am I in contempt here?