I have a dilemma.
I have an order filed in NC ( I’m prim phy/ joint legal) When we agreed on it I was based in PA. The order is based on distance visitation. NC has always had jurisdiction.
We have have specific exchange address that can only be notified if we agree.
I moved back to NC temp (year), we never changed the order and we followed the visitation but we did notify the exchange and added some days but I insisted on not changing the order bc I was moving back.
Flash forward I found a job with much better salary, my cost of living won’t change really n Its better school area. I informed my ex per the order ( states I have to notify within 30 days) he said I can move but I can’t change her daycare. I stated bc I am moving we have to figure out a new school n I gave him options…per our order new decisions are to be made, I give options or my pick; he has 5 days to object then present a new option. He just rejected and wouldn’t look at it. So I waited 5 days and picked the school. Am I in violation? (I may be this time)
Anyway our order also states
That once our child reaches a certain age visitation drops during the month from one week to one weekend a month. This would happen either in NC or anywhere. We did the calendar earlier part this year based on a younger age, our mistake. I informed my ex that we need to revert to the correct age visitation within order ( which is better for her schooling) he said no. I can’t “change” visitation or I’m contempt but is this true if it’s in the order on file? I’m just following the order.
We also have to figure out a new exchange location from our notified one (we agreed on it when I moved) bc I explained to him that that’s not going to work anymore and I don’t agree on it, I proposed a new location (halfway) but he said No. I informed him since we don’t agree on he exchange then we will just follow the order of the specific location. He reasoning for saying no is bc he states bc it states "the new location must be the same location at the current exchange or moving party must pay the difference) the new location is based off of our notified location and not the order. is this true?
I just want to follow the order until a judge tells me otherwise. We made notifications but they don’t work anymore n the order is a better fit for our child. He is refusing to meet at the location within the order and I need to know what I need to do.
He also claims that bc I’m a resident of NC that parts of the order are null and void but I thought Our judge is the only one that could do that.
We haven’t signed or notarized anything btw us, it’s all through email. He is board line harassing me and threatening to take our child if I don’t show up where he wants in NC. In one breathe he states the order was based off of me being in PA not NC so some of it is null and void but then he states that I have to follow certain parts based off me being in NC. I’m confused but I know that can’t be right.
I always thought notification are only offical if file n both parties have a right to change their mind and go back to the order…if the other perso doesn’t agree they need to file a motion to modify.
Thanks for your help, sorry this was long.