Any women paying alimony?

My soon to be ex husband makes approx. $42,000 year. He’s a sheriff’s deputy and has the potential to make more by working off duty, he just didn’t while we were married.
He is now seeking alimony from me to support in “in the manner to which he has become accustomed”.

I think this is crazy given that we collectively have over $76k in debt - obviously we were both living above our means and need to change our habits.

I’m curious about whether I should realistically worry about having to pay alimony to him. I make slightly less than twice what he makes, but I still think a single man can support himself pretty well on $42k a year - especially when I’m paying the children’s daycare and healthcare expenses.

Any women out there paying alimony? If so, what was your situation?