You do not divorce your children. You will still be active in their lives, as long as you want to be. If you are no more than a phone call away, what more can they ever ask?
I think that being a father and a husband automatically makes you some type of “crutch,” but I don’t know if you are hindering their personal growth or not. That is a question for yourself. Maybe you will want to talk to a counselor to get an independent and neutral opinion on this?
You are wrong. You will not always have to go through your wife. Why have you not seen an attorney yet. Make an appointment. Stop sulking about your situation. You have already decided you are leaving, which is why you are posting here every day. It is just hard to take action.
I think that you are stronger than you realize and so are your children and wife. Making decisions that are best for you is something we all have to do sometimes. It is not popular, but sometimes it is the only way we can survive when overwhelming depression sinks in. Your children will still be in your life, if you make that a priority in the separation. Your spouse will be angry, but she will also be even more motivated by finances, which you currently control.
You need to see an attorney who can empower you to see both the good and bad (not just the bad which you are focusing on) of the situation and the choices you are making. Few things in life are easy and conflict is not always bad!
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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