I flew to NC yesterday and picked up the order. My ex wife has indeed accused me of molesting my 4 year old daughter. I have retained an attorney.
I was advised by two attorneys yesterday that this is the gravest thing I could have been accused of and that it is a frequent tactic of only the most vindictive of ex spouses.
Some of you didn’t believe me a few weeks ago when I made a tirade about how difficult a woman my ex wife is. Well, how does she sound now?
Here I am, a month away from moving across country for the sole purpose of being near my children, and I get hit with a sexual abuse allegation. A team of social service “experts” are going to talk with my daughter over this month to try to determine if I molested her. If they suggest that she has been touched then I will lose 100% of my visitation rights with all my children, I will have to pay thousands of dollars in my ex wife’s legal fees in addition to the thousands of dollars I’m spending on my own legal fees, I can go to jail, and my reptuation will follow me the rest of my life.
I’ve read everywhere that the sexual abuse allegation is called the “nuclear option” because it starts an instant all out war. At this point there can be no negotiation and polite mediation. If my ex’s false allegations are confirmed by these social service champions then my relationship with my children is over.
How can we have a system that allows this to happen to innocent people? How is it that so many ex wives can use this tactic and get away with it? I don’t understand.
You can be sure of this though… I’ve hired a monster of an attorney to defend me and I’m going to fight to my last breath.