I am located in Watauga County NC and my husband and I have been seperated for 6 months. It has become an extremely unusual divorce and even my attorney, whom I cannot continue to pay, I think is stumped.
I need advice and possibly free legal representation.
I can briefly explain. My husband and I have been married 31 yrs. He was having an affair and didn’t come home or answer his phone for 4 months the beginning of this year. He is an alcoholic, has severe ADHD, and our marriage had been full of domestic violence against me.
He locked me out of our three houses. He got a false dvo and had me locked out for two months while he moved out $250,000 worth of assets. He had moved his new girlfriend into our home and she removed a huge amount of my personal and inherited items to her house, using my car, across state lines.
In court I proved where he threatened me to give him everything or I would have nothing left, that his lock out was a ruse to steal and hide marital and inherited assets, that there was domestic violence instances, and assets had been moved to paramours house. The judge admonished him for lying to the cops and to the court. We argued his dvo for 8 hrs. The judge threw him out of the martial home, gave me custody, and gave me a one year dvo.
His new girlfriend is a psychiatrist and twice divorced. She got my husband on a dating site and provided him with secret throw away phones. When they were thrown out of the house by the judge, I tried to go to court to get my husband on the stand for multiple violations of the judges orders, including taking way more than clothes and toiletries, not returning my car, and transferring vehicle titles into his father’s name and placing liens on them against the martial asset protection order.
But it was continued by his attorney and I was told there was an arrest warrant out for me in VA, as his girlfriend in that state, filed a charge against me for stalking? I don’t know her…
One week after I got possession of my home, I recieved a summons to appear in court in VA because she wanted a restraining order. I complied with the law, entered the court room, and was arrested on another charge of trespassing. But the charge is completely false.
She presented text messages from my husband’s cell phone that she perceived as threatening, four of them. The judge threw them out because they were not from my phone, but from his phone.
But I had to go to the jail and magistrates office where I thought I could bail out on yet another false misdemeanor from the paramour. She beat me there and used those four texts the judge just threw out and filed them with the magistrate as felonies, and I could not post bond. I was in solitary confinement for six weeks and forced to sign a plea agreement and it cost me $12,000.
While I was in custody, they stole my truck, in my name only, from in front of the court house and got my cell phone, my computer, and all my financial records that had been seperated from him earlier. She answered my cell while I was in jail telling friends the court had awarded her my cell and computer so she could monitor me! My husband got all the new keys to the house, came in and took more things, tools I had just bought on my lowes card, and the spare set of keys to the truck.
Since then, they are running state to state filing false charges trying to extradite me back to VA in hopes to make me serve 20 yrs so they can steal everything.
He has taken all the assets of the construction business I started, but we worked jointly, and left me without income.
My mother was gravely ill. I was her Poa and after her stroke, managed all of her affairs. Made sure she had money for food, etc. She died the day before I got out of jail and she left a note addressed to my husband. It was a suicide note. My family is devastated.
There are other developments as there was a court date two weeks ago. My case is being presided over by a chief district court Judge. We are supposed to go to court on Dec 18 for his violations.
This is actually a thing. It’s called sociopathic and psychopathic manipulation of the law in a divorce. They are trying to make me run away in fear and I will not.
Im looking for any and all advice as I do not believe my attorney is handling my case well and I think I should fire him.
Oh yes, they also used my cell phone while I was in jail to hack into the bank account in my name only, changed all the security info, and opened a new account in my name using my social security number and transferred the money out. I got the money back immediately.
I have two theories about this situation. Everyone is telling me to press charges on them thru the bank. But I believe it will fuel their fire to act with more stupid tricks. If I ignore them, they can’t fight someone who isn’t fighting.
I also know that he is under her care and she is writing him, or has a colleague, prescriptions for what I believe is Xanax.
I honestly just don’t know how to stop these psychos. I have no mortgage and I’m paying all the bills on three houses. $30,000 worth in the past three months. I’m depleting my savings and maxing out my cards. I will be happy to sell if I can find a buyer after the divorce, but I doubt my husband will sign, even though he wants money, he does not have to agree to a dollar amount. I know the judge is on my side but I don’t know what to expect.
Im just lost… And grieving about my mother.
I need a real expert to give me creative solutions.