Greetings. Cheating is not equal to bad mom, unless your cheating caused or may cause direct harm to the children. Not every adult decision affects children.
Counseling and anti-depressants are usually appreciated by the court, not discouraged - it shows the judge that you are aware of your issues and taking care of them.
Abuse is understood by judges. Sure those incidents would hold up in court. They are relevant, not to marital fault, but to the welfare of your child.
Stop letting him dictate your life with his threats and just move forward with your actions and take what he says with a grain of salt.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
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Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
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Chapel Hill, NC 27514
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